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heatherbat: reading an article about gq/transmen and their feels on periods
heatherbat: it's interesting
heatherbat: i never really thought about how much my period feels are shaped by being gq
heatherbat: or more accurately, never having really felt like a girl.
heatherbat: 3:38 PM like, did you know?
shans: OOOH, YES
heatherbat: cause i didn't until about a year or two ago
heatherbat: that most girls, girls that ID as actual girls?
shans: wow capslock
heatherbat: when they put on dresses and heels and makeup and shit?
heatherbat: they don't feel like they are in costume!
heatherbat: THEY JUST FEEL APPROPRIATE.
heatherbat: i mean, when i do the full pinup heels and skirt business
heatherbat: 3:39 PM i feel like i'm dressed up super pretty
shans: sometimes i like putting on dresses and feeling all dressy and shit
heatherbat: but i still feel like it's a costume
heatherbat: like, "here is me as A Girl!"
shans: i mean i like that one skirt i wear around
shans: when i am giving zero fucks
heatherbat: and when i'm wearing skirts and flip flops, like, not dressed up but still in "girl clothes"
heatherbat: i still have more of a feeling like a guy in girls clothes
heatherbat: not uncomfortable
heatherbat: like, i am a guy who is supremely comfortable in girl's clothing
heatherbat: but it doesn't occur to me for a second that i'm wearing "right" clothes.
heatherbat: 3:40 PM but girls who id as girls? are all, oh yes. i have on a skirt BECAUSE GIRLS WEAR SKIRTS.
shans: i ... i have on a skirt because sometimes i like to wear skirts
shans: not because girls wear skirts!!
heatherbat: not cause i'm supposed to.
heatherbat: but other girls when they do girl clothes are like
heatherbat: they aren't Dressed As A Girl
heatherbat: they're just
heatherbat: being girls.
heatherbat: 3:41 PM ::baffled stare::
heatherbat: such is my cis privelege that i never even thought about the nature of my relationship to my gender and sex on that level, and i am not even cis!
heatherbat: but i have all the cis privelege anyway
shans: i like genderqueer
shans: the way it's defined in that article
shans: 3:42 PM "not fitting either gender neatly
heatherbat: i like having a girl's body
heatherbat: i do
shans: or whatever
heatherbat: it's fun
heatherbat: i have boobs
heatherbat: and a vagina
shans: i have boobs!
heatherbat: and i'm soft everywhere i touch and i smell nice
shans: i have a vagina!
heatherbat: and i like all of that
heatherbat: i don't want to lose any of that, that's for sure.
heatherbat: but my brain is not a girl brain at all
shans: i would like to be able to switch out gender characteristics at will
heatherbat: nor is it really a guy brain. i mean, i have dudebrain but i do not think of myself as a guy
shans: i don't want to change them irrevocably
heatherbat: funnily, i think of myself as a girl when i self-identify, but not female or a woman or any of the other words that go for women
heatherbat: 3:43 PM i am a girl and a dude.
heatherbat: despite being 30. in fact, when i am 70 i probably still will be a girl with girl parts.
shans: but some days i have girl days and some days i have dude days
shans: OH MY GOD HEATHER STOP
shans: girl and a dude
shans: yes ma'am
heatherbat: like an officer and a gentleman!
shans: 3:44 PM i like being able to have girl days and dude days
shans: or girude days
shans: or i don't give a fuck i have magnificent tits and i can grow a beard so fuck you days
shans: although i would like the latter more if i didn't have this empty bit
heatherbat: most days i don't really think about gender.
shans: in the middle of my chin
heatherbat: which is a privelege in and of itself
shans: 3:45 PM i don't either
heatherbat: but, i don't really have a gender in my head.
heatherbat: i'm not agender, either
shans: i am just kind of whatever
heatherbat: i just don't really
shans: i am questionmark
shans: questionmark, shrug?
heatherbat: well, not really that either
heatherbat: cause i know what i am
heatherbat: i just
heatherbat: it's not words, it's emotions.
shans: well yeah
heatherbat: it are feels in my head.
shans: i am a girl and i am a dude and that is okay
heatherbat: that don't translate into english.
shans: i am a shans!!
heatherbat: and i'm a heatherbat.
shans: 3:46 PM that is what i am
shans: :: pokes nose :: heatherbat
shans: or, as i so often transpose it, heaterbath
shans: 3:47 PM because i can't type
heatherbat: i'm not a boy and i'm not a girl and i'm not a grownup and i'm not a kid and i'm not a domme and i'm not a sub and i'm not a top and i'm not a bottom
heatherbat: i'm not a lot of things by grace of being all of those things
heatherbat: so i'm just a me.
shans: you are just a you
shans: i am just a me
shans: hey heather guess what
heatherbat: 3:48 PM hey shannon what
shans: there are people who love us for just the way we are
heatherbat: and that's so cool
shans: in all our weird handflail glory
heatherbat: those people are even our family which is lucky
heatherbat: lucky more than winning the lottery
incoming chat post on gender and genderfeels. but not the part where it segues into discussions over facesmooth vs nonsmooth and why it’s okay when i decide i want smooth vs when well-meaning but non-understanding family members offer to take me to get things waxed. (heather says: hey shans let’s go wax things!, it is shenanigans and that is okay. aunt celeste says would you at...
raphmike: That feeling of self pride after you’ve successfully made a phone call.
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drunkonstevphen: This man is beyond words. :: scream-laughs into hands ::
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heatherbat: http://mashable.com/2012/06/27/back-to-the-future-hoax/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+Mashable+%28Mashable%29 what kind of dicks do this? it’s not future day. future day is october 21st 2015. WHY DID THEY GET US ALL EXCITED? douchebags. BOOOOOO. fuckers. i mean it’s still THE FUTURE but it’s not OFFICIALLY the future. or...
Queerness, to me, is about far more than homosexual attraction. It’s about a...– What Queerness Means To Me « Tranarchism (via docasaur) (via strugglingtobeheard) While not every single point of this applies to me — most of it makes me sit up and go, “Oh, yes. Yes, good.” So … there you go. Have a block of text.
void-liminality: heatherbat: ismashpatriarchyonthefirstdate: The only rule in my house is nobody wears pants everyone just walks around in underwear and tshirts. that’s profoundly overdressed in my house. If that is overdressed, then what am I? i make evie put on underwear because she sits on stuff and also she is seven. other than that i don’t make her put on clothes except to...
smirkinglittleshit: if you say you’ve never found an animated character even remotely attractive you’re either lying or you’re lying.